Pete Edochie is one of the wisest men to have ever come out of the Nigerian movie industry. The veteran Nollywood actor is known to use local proverbs (adage) to convey messages. In an interview with Chude Jideonwo, the movie star made it clear that he will not condemn polygamy as people have their reasons for it. However, his story may have indicated why his son, Yul Edochie may have cheated on his first wife, May Yul Edochie and even went ahead to marry his second wife, Judy Austin Yul-Edochie and start another family with her.
Edochie’s story speaks volumes about the complexities of relationships: a man caught between a distant first wife who wouldn’t let him have s! xual relationship with her and the allure of a second partner.
“The people who take second wives know best why they take second wives. I don’t have any need for a second wife. For me, I mean I have a wife who has given me five sons, what am I going to look for a second wife for? No it’s not necessary. I will not condemn polygamy, no, because people have their reasons for what they do, right. I know a man who has one wife and she is a very proud woman and she just keeps denying him s#x you know, and so he went out, saw a pretty girl who sells petrol, fell in love with her or confessed love to her and went to her father, paid the bride price. Rented an apartment for her and she was making babies for him and then the wife kept preventing him from getting intimate with her and all that.
“One day, the man just left the house, came back with this woman and 3 sons, ‘This is my second wife o, so you have to cope with it.’ My wife just came in now, she’s a lawyer. I have lived with this woman for the past 53 years. Nobody has ever come in here to say ‘oh please Pete stop beating her, you will kill her’. No, why? I never saw my father beat my mother so I cannot say I learnt from my father how to beat mama, No, I did not. I love women a great deal and I respect them. If I see any young man beating up a woman, oh my God . You know, I just think you don’t qualify to be a man. Men, God has given women their tongues. What makes you a mature person is your ability to cope with what they tell you without resorting to violence. Your wife will tell you the worst thing on earth, right? If you can react properly, there’s something called equanimity, moreover, if you can react patiently, it’s some kind of studied reaction. You know you can cope with what she does. At the end of the day, she’ll apologize to you.”
There were reactions in the comment section of the post.
odubenuconstanceanumati: “Stray bullet has finally hit Mary and justified @yuledochie. Even the Bible says married couples should never deny themselves of s*x lest they get tempted.”
teemark_pro: “What about a woman, who the husband keep denying s!x, would she go and marry a second husband. Marriage is so deep, it is well”.
itz_kingzzz: “Daddy Pete so so matured … he knows how to use his words … A father fugues he is… I wished I knew him one on one… I would be going to him to learn a-lot plus advice… he is a man of wisdom … God bless you sir… you’ve done really well …”
mummyvinbelvic: “For Yul and May Matter, You do not be an inlaw online to any of the parties to understand what’s going on.. Sentiment apart your eye go open, forget couples sewing uniform up and down, a lot Dey inside marriage..”
brightfuture_na_asia: “As a man. Never in your life hit a woman whenever she insulted you, but rather treat her differently at that point than beating her. Real men don’t beat women … Mind you. once you raise your hand on a woman it simply disqualified you as a man.”
shugaxspice_: “This man speaks words wisdom
Your background really matters
what your parents do in front of you matters a lot
Most of us that come out as so loving is because we grew up in such environments where our parents love each other so much”.
charityoladiran: “Yes, well said. Nobody is even angry with Yul getting a second wife but the fact that he didn’t discuss it with his wife is horrible. She had to see it on social media. So wrong”.
omenazukingee: “For Yul and May Matter, You do not be an inlaw online to any of the parties to understand what’s going on.. Sentiment apart your eye go open, forget couples sewing uniform up and down, a lot Dey inside marriage..”.
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